Sex can be an uncomfortable subject. Some may feel ashamed of their sexual desires or have difficulty in understanding them.
Many Christians believe that sex was created for marriage. This view leaves single people confused. If sex is only for marriage, why do men and women have strong sexual desire until they find a spouse?
Procreation
Sex has many purposes, but one of the most important is the creation of new members of a species. This is why sex has been so important to the human race throughout history.
God designed sex for this purpose, as illustrated by His command to Adam and Eve to “be fruitful and multiply” (Genesis 1:28). It is also why most animals engage in sexual intercourse to produce offspring. Interestingly, the Bible also reveals that sex has many other purposes for humans, as well, including emotional and spiritual union in marriage.
However, this is not what many people today believe. In fact, sex has become one of the most misunderstood aspects of our lives. Many people think that sex is simply an evolutionary accident, and they believe that anything goes as long as it’s between consenting adults. This misunderstanding has cost societies dearly in financial losses, health crises, and family and marital breakdowns.
Most importantly, this misunderstanding has prevented couples from enjoying God’s intended purpose for sex — to connect deeply with each other on a profound level and to experience true intimacy. When this happens, it creates orgasm, which is not only the most satisfying sex but is also a sign of true love. This is why it’s important to learn more about sex as God designed it, rather than settling for flashes of lust that will fade in no time.
Intimacy
Intimacy is a big reason God designed sex. He created sex as an act that binds two souls together on a deep level physically, emotionally and spiritually. It’s a powerful bonding experience that is meant to reflect God’s desire for oneness with us as His people and His love for creating beauty in our lives.
In the post-orgasmic phase of sex, a cocktail of hormones are released that help to create an emotional bond between two people. It is in this intimate moment that a couple can begin to learn to understand each other on a deeper level and cultivate exquisite companionship.
The intimacy that can be cultivated through sexual intimacy is a powerful foundation for marriage and can be used to nurture the other aspects of the relationship, such as mutual respect, trust, and adoration. It’s also important to remember that intimacy is a journey and should be continually developed, as we grow in knowledge of our spouses.
Intimacy in sex is most meaningful when it’s based on selflessness and a genuine desire to serve the other. This is why it’s so important for couples to discuss their needs and wants in the areas of sex, intimacy, and intimacy in general regularly. This way they can stay on track to pursue the true depths of intimacy that God intended for sex and all of life.
Gratitude
Gratitude is the habit of acknowledging the gifts and blessings in one’s life. It is a practice that can help reduce negative emotions such as anxiety and depression. It also helps with physical pain and sleep problems. In addition, it can improve self-esteem and promote a more positive outlook on life. Practicing gratitude can help you develop healthy relationships. Practicing it can be as simple as saying three things you are grateful for every day.
Some people think that gratitude requires a feeling of humility, but this is not always the case. According to Benedictine monk Br. David Steindl-Rast, there are two qualities that belong in our basic definition of gratitude: appreciation and recognition. Appreciation involves recognizing the value of something without considering its monetary worth. It is a response to something that was given freely, or gratis.
It is important to remember that God created sex for our pleasure, and he wants us to enjoy it. Unfortunately, many couples neglect their sexual gift by focusing on performance and appearance instead of embracing the deeper connection it is meant to provide. The Bible is clear: sex is a gift from the Lord that should be treasured and enjoyed. However, because of sin, it can be easy to lose sight of its significance. If this happens, it’s vital to bring your sexual addictions and fears to Jesus. He has come not to extinguish your desire for sex, but to restore the love and intimacy that is its intended purpose.
Discipline
In the same way that athletes train to win, we need to practice self-discipline to master our lustful drives. This self-mastery requires a strong commitment to biblical purity and God-honoring modesty. It also involves keeping a healthy diet, getting enough rest, and participating in strenuous physical workouts. The Apostle Paul compares this training to that of an athlete in the games. Athletes train by severely restricting their individual freedoms. Self-discipline also involves a willingness to take every thought captive to Christ.
In a friends-with-benefits world, where sex is commonly portrayed as a selfish pleasure, it’s important to remember that God created sexual intimacy for a purpose. This pleasure should be enjoyed by a married couple for the benefit of one another, not a random person or group.
A marriage should be a place where a husband and wife learn to put each other first. This selfless intimacy is key to true sex, both emotional and spiritual. It also strengthens a couple against temptation, especially when the husband and wife guard against lustful thoughts by redirecting their attention.
Sexual sin has shattered many lives and destroyed families, churches, communities, and nations. God warns of the serious consequences and calls for firm standards about sex in his word. If a believer does fall into sexual impurity, the church should discipline them (Matthew 18:15-17). This may include counseling them to refrain from the Lord’s Supper for a time and/or removing them from areas of ministry until they repent.
