Sometimes, a good orgasm can leave you crying. It’s a totally normal reaction.
It may also be a sign of postcoital dysphoria or post-sex blues. That’s when you feel sad or angry after a sexual experience that was consensual and enjoyable for both parties.
It’s fine if you cry occasionally, as long as it’s not something you’re doing regularly. But if you’re crying constantly, it could be an indication of a deeper problem.
Emotions
Crying after or during sex isn’t always sad – the tears can actually be an indication of joy. When you orgasm, your body releases a bunch of feel-good hormones like oxytocin and dopamine that can lead to feelings of love, connection and satisfaction that make you cry. Sometimes, those feelings can be hard to maintain when you stop orgasming and that might cause a dip in your mood that triggers the waterworks. In some cases, this is referred to as post coital depression or the ‘post-sex blues’ and can be caused by a variety of things including anal pain, a decrease in oxytocin, hormonal fluctuations, low self esteem, guilt, a sense of failure and pain from sexual trauma.
If you’re trying lots of amazing new things sexually and you find yourself crying after sex, it might be because you’re feeling overwhelmed. Take your time, explore at your own pace and don’t be afraid to tell your partner if you feel uncomfortable or overwhelmed. That way they can adjust and help you to enjoy your sex more. This will also prevent you from pushing through when it’s not right for your body and you’ll be less likely to have premature orgasms that can lead to pain. You might also be able to reduce your symptoms of PCD by changing your diet, adjusting the amount of fluids you drink or using aromatherapy to relax.
Physical Pain
Sometimes the tears that accompany orgasm are a result of physical pain. This can be due to a medical condition like polycystic ovary syndrome or certain kinds of cancer. Alternatively, it could be a result of sexual trauma or abuse. It’s possible that the pain is so intense that it makes you cry out of sheer terror and frustration. It can also be a side effect of medication that you’re taking to treat this condition.
This is a very common reason for people to cry during orgasm, and it’s usually caused by the intensity of their sexual experiences. The climax can cause such intense emotions because it involves the stimulation of multiple areas of the brain. These include the sensory input regions of the genitalia as well as the areas responsible for secreting oxytocin and dopamine, which are natural mood enhancers.
This combination of different emotions can create a roller coaster ride of feelings, and this can lead to sadness or joy. Many women who experience this find that they feel especially close to their partner during sex, and this can trigger happy tears. It’s also possible that the climax doesn’t live up to expectations, and this can cause sadness as well. If you are regularly experiencing this feeling, it might be worth talking to a therapist about it.
Trauma
Despite what you may have heard, crying after orgasm is completely normal from a biological and psychological perspective. When you experience a powerful orgasm, your body releases feel-good chemicals that can trigger emotional responses. In addition to the sexual excitement, you can also experience happiness, relief, or even joy. A happy cry after orgasm is what some people refer to as “crymaxing.”
This is similar to having a laughing fit after a stressful situation. You can also experience an orgasm when you have a strong and deep connection with your partner. Often, this can lead to feelings of love and overwhelming joy. These emotions can be mistaken for sadness, but it is actually an expression of happiness and contentment.
However, if you experience a painful orgasm and don’t feel satisfied afterwards, this could indicate that you have unresolved trauma. This type of trauma can be the result of sexual or physical abuse or it can be more general. It’s important to take the time to deal with any trauma you have and seek professional help if necessary.
Finally, some people cry after orgasm because they’re so overwhelmed by the experience. This is often the case when you’re trying new things with your partner or if you’re hitting a peak in your sexual journey, like reaching your strongest climax.
Relationship Issues
Sometimes, people cry during orgasm because of underlying relationship issues. For example, if a person has suffered sexual trauma in the past, physical intimacy with a partner can trigger feelings of anguish and sorrow. Crying during sex can help people deal with these emotions and feel closer to their partners.
In other cases, people cry during orgasm because of the intense physical arousal. The body’s natural oxytocin and dopamine responses amplified the emotional experiences, which can lead to tears. People who experience this kind of crying might find it helpful to talk to a therapist about their sexual and emotional history.
There is no set “normal” amount of crying during orgasm, so it is important to listen to your body and follow the signals it is giving you. If you’re having a great time with your partner or feeling safe and secure, then there is no need to worry about the tears. However, if the experience is negative or you are not enjoying yourself at all, then it is probably a good idea to seek help from a therapist. The most important thing is to be honest with yourself and your partner(s). Open communication about your feelings will strengthen your connection as well as the overall sexual experience.
