Phone sex can feel awkward and intimidating at first. It’s okay to be shy at first, but you have to keep telling yourself that you can do this.
Sending nudes, sexting, and flirting over text are all great ways to gauge your partner’s interest in phone sex and to pre-pave the way.
1. Talk Dirty
During phone sex, talking dirty can get pretty raunchy, and it’s important to talk about what turns you on. Getting explicit is how you’ll find out what turns your partner on, too, so don’t be afraid to describe exactly what you want from them during the call. The more detailed you are, the more you’ll entice your partner’s imagination and sense of touch over the phone.
Some people like to pregame a phone sex session by sending fun and sexy texts ahead of time, but you can also start your conversation with something innocent that turns the heat up. Just remember that any phone sex that involves a mutual fantasy (or in-character) requires both parties’ consent.
While you’re discussing your fantasies, be sure to use sexy verbs such as “twist,” “kick,” “suck” and “lick.” And don’t forget about body language. A little heavy breathing or an occasional moan can turn up the volume on your sexy voice over the phone and create a hot atmosphere.
It’s a good idea to have some sexy lines prepared ahead of time, but don’t prepare an entire script because it will sound forced and not genuine. Instead, choose a scenario or two you want to explore and then play with it as you go along. This will allow you to improvise and make the call more interesting for both of you.
2. Give Complements
When you’re on the phone with a horny lover, every sound and word you say can make or break the moment. This means that if you’re in the mood to play with each other via the phone, it’s important to keep the heat pumping and the steam rising.
One way to do this is by giving your boo compliments on their body over the phone. This will not only make them feel seductive and wanted, but it can also stimulate their imaginations. For example, telling them how good they look in a certain outfit can get their blood pumping and their lips ready to meet yours.
It’s also a great idea to compliment them on their lips, eyes, ears and anything else that turns them on. If you’re unsure of what to do, try asking them what makes them feel naughty and what they like to be complimented on. This will help you figure out what to say to push them into full-on orgasmic bliss over the phone.
And don’t forget to use your phone’s microphone to amplify the sound of their moans and groans. Nothing sounds more sexy over the phone than hearing those mouth noises come through your speaker! This is something that’s best done when you’ve already established a level of comfort and trust in your relationship.
3. Talk Slowly
Awkward silences are a common part of phone sex, but you can make it feel intimate and romantic by using a few key phrases to fill them. Compliments are a great way to add some sexy talk, and they can help your partner turn on by telling them about parts of their body that they’re particularly turned on by, like the way that their moans sound or the way they caress themselves.
Talking slowly is also a good way to create a seductive atmosphere over the phone. The slowed down pace can feel a lot more intimate and it helps to build sexual tension. Cracking jokes or talking fast isn’t really a turn on, but slowing down your speech can make it much more seductive.
Another thing you can do to create a seductive atmosphere over the phones is to add some sexy background noises. It doesn’t need to be anything too crazy, but things like the smack of a paddle or the snapping of a rubber band can be a real turn on. This is especially important if you’re in a long-distance relationship and want to get closer over the phone.
You can also use the phone to tell your partner about your naughtiest fantasies and what turns you on. Telling them about a fantasy that you both can share over the phone is a good way to make them both feel horny. Describe your fantasies in detail and you’ll find that the two of you will become a little bit more intimate as you imagine it together.
4. Don’t Be Afraid to Be Awkward
Phone sex is not just about a few dynamite lines (although those are great, too). It’s about being able to paint a picture in your partner’s mind. And you can do that by giving compliments (or moans) or describing your fantasy to them.
For example, if your partner has a perfect butt or you love the way they scratch their backs, describe it to them. This is a great way to fill in awkward silences during the phone sex session and it’ll also help you get them even more turned on!
The more detailed and vivid your descriptions are, the better. Use lots of sexy verbs like lick, stroke, tickle, push, pull, thrust — the more arousing it is to hear you talk, the more they will want to engage in the fantasy with you.
It can be scary to be so intimate over the phone, but don’t worry, he’ll know what you mean and he’ll be excited to participate in your sexual fantasies. Just make sure you’re in a private place, dim the lights and play some sexy music if you need to. And don’t forget the toys! This is a key component to getting you both orgasming and can make the phone sex session even more explosive. Just make sure to check in with your partner throughout the experience to ensure that everyone is comfortable and having a good time.
