Are you tired of men who seem charming but end up only wanting sex? If so, you’re not alone.
Luckily, there are several clear signs a guy only wants sex. Here are a few of the most common: 1. He talks about sex all the time.
1. He’s not ready for a relationship
When a guy says he’s only in it for sex, that’s usually a pretty good indicator that he isn’t relationship material. His past may be littered with short-term flings or he might have a reputation for being a player. He might even have a reason like his career, family, or financial situation that means he hasn’t got time for a committed relationship.
In any case, if he isn’t ready for a relationship, he should make that clear to you early on. Using you to satisfy his own sexual needs is not fair, and it’s not something you should tolerate.
Generally speaking, a guy who only wants to sleep with you will also be reluctant to spend time hanging out outside of the bedroom with you. He might not be interested in meeting your friends or family or he might avoid talking about the future. A man who is interested in a real relationship will be open to these things and might even be excited to discuss them.
Of course, sometimes a guy who only wants sex will say one thing but do another. It can be frustrating, but the important thing is to read between the lines and pay attention to consistent patterns over time. If he’s consistently saying he’s only in it for lust but is consistently annoyed if you don’t hook up, that’s a big sign that he’s only using you.
2. He’s afraid of commitment
Some men are afraid of commitment because they feel that if they fall in love with someone, they will get hurt. This is a very common feeling for guys, especially young ones. Many of them have had their hearts broken in the past, and they don’t want to risk getting hurt again.
This is why they prefer casual sex instead of real relationships. They don’t want to spend time with you or talk about anything serious because they know that they won’t have a future together. They may even be annoyed if you try to hang out with them without hooking up, because they see you as their “possession.”
Another sign that he’s afraid of commitment is if he acts suspiciously around you. He might be sneaky about where he goes, and he’ll avoid conversations about being exclusive with you. He might also disappear or flake on plans last minute, which is a sign that he doesn’t see you as a long-term partner.
While it’s frustrating to be with a guy who doesn’t want to commit, remember that it’s not your fault. All of us are different, and some people are just not ready for a committed relationship. If you want to win over a commitment-phobe, try working with them step by step. For example, you could start by making sure that you see each other uniquely one night a week.
3. He’s afraid of commitment
Guys have a lot of sex drive, but that doesn’t automatically mean they want to use women as sexual objects. Some men want to have a relationship, cuddle, and talk about things. But when you’re hooking up with a guy and he consistently changes the subject or tells you he doesn’t like labels, he might be showing you that he only wants to sleep with you.
If he really liked you, he’d be happy to make plans and include you in his life. He’d also be excited to hear about your day and would love to get to know you better – outside of the bedroom. If he’s consistently ditching plans or making excuses to avoid talking about being exclusive, that’s a sign that he only wants sex.
If you feel that a man you’re sleeping with only wants to bed you, it’s important to speak up. It’s possible he will change his mind and decide he actually does want more, but if you let this continue for too long, the chances of him ever wanting to go further are slim. If you’re dealing with a commitment phobe, check out this article that reveals how to get them to commit. And remember, most guys who only want to sleep with you aren’t trying to hurt you – they just have commitment issues.
4. He’s afraid of commitment
If you notice that your guy isn’t interested in talking about the future, is always busy with work or other things, and doesn’t want to spend time with you outside of the bedroom, he might be afraid of commitment. Many men have issues with commitment because they fear being abandoned. They may have experienced this in a previous relationship and now they’re scared to be left by the person they love.
Another sign of a commitment phobe is that he avoids intimate language and talks about his feelings only when it’s absolutely necessary. He might say “I like you” occasionally, but he doesn’t really talk about how much he cares about you or what you mean to him. When you try to go deeper in your conversations, he shuts them down rather quickly.
Men who are afraid of commitment also tend to not include you in their friend group or make plans with you. This can be a frustrating thing to deal with, but it might indicate that he doesn’t really want to commit to you and just wants to keep his options open.
It’s also possible that your guy is only using you for sex. This is a hard thing to realize, but it’s important to remember that most guys don’t mean to hurt their partners. It’s usually a misunderstanding or a result of having commitment issues that they need to work through.