Staring into someone’s eyes during intimacy creates a sense of closeness and intensity that is difficult to replicate with words. It can be a powerful aphrodisiac.
But for some, eye contact makes them feel vulnerable and uncomfortable. Regardless, sex therapists encourage couples to make eye contact during sex. Here are some signs that your partner is doing just that.
1. He’s in love
Eye contact can convey a lot of information and a guy might want to look into your eyes during sex because he wants to know whether you’re enjoying it. Besides, looking at you during lovemaking will create a more personalized connection and make it more intimate.
If he keeps his eyes on you during sex, it could be that he’s in love with you and finds it emotionally rewarding. He might find physical touch with you satisfying, but he also loves the way you feel about him and wants to experience it to its fullest.
This is a classic sign that he’s in love with you. It’s difficult to tell if someone’s in love when you don’t talk about it or see it on their face, but looking into your eyes is a great way to communicate that. He might also stare at you during sex because he likes how you look in bed and wants to remind himself of it. Obviously, it’s okay for him to do so as long as it doesn’t cause you to become uncomfortable.
2. He’s trying to avoid looking at your body
Eye contact can be a powerful tool during intimacy. It allows us to see our partner’s true emotions, fears and insecurities. It can also create a sense of vulnerability and trust. This kind of bond can make sex much more intimate and pleasurable.
But if your partner avoids eye contact during sex, that’s a red flag. He may not want to show you his body because he’s uncomfortable with it or because he thinks that sex isn’t “pure.” It could also be a sign of insecurity or that he doesn’t feel like your body is worthy of his attention.
If he wants you bad, he’ll probably look at your face and eyes during sex. And he’ll likely be overly sensitive to any other man who glances in your direction. He’ll be eager to please you orally and he will want to bond with you emotionally as well.
3. He’s trying to intimidate you
When a man stares into your eyes during sex, it’s probably because he wants to intimidate you. This is a toxic behavior and can cause many problems in your relationship, especially if it happens regularly. He’s probably doing this to make you feel small, so he can control you better.
He’s probably doing this because he is power-hungry and wants to be in total control of you during sex. He wants you to be his helpless victim, and staring into your eyes is one way of achieving that.
Another reason why he might be doing this is because he is jealous of you. He might think you have a more exciting life than him, or that you are more independent and don’t need him as much. He might be afraid of losing you, so he’s trying to intimidate you to stop you from leaving him. But don’t let that scare you away. Women who intimidate men form happy relationships everyday – Serena Williams, Amal Clooney, and Liz Truss are proof of that. So don’t let this stop you from pursuing your goals and dreams.
4. He’s trying to please you orally
When he stares into your eyes during sex, it may be because he wants to please you orally. He may want to make you feel desired by his body, so he’s looking at you during oral sex or even when he’s caressing your boobs or kissing your neck.
He could also be trying to please you orally because he finds you sexually stimulating. In either case, it’s a sign that he wants to bond with you emotionally and sexually and he needs eye contact to do that.
Another reason he might be staring into your eyes during sex is because he’s trying to intimidate you. He wants to know that you are powerless in his hands. He wants to have full control of you. This can be a good thing or a bad thing depending on the situation and how he’s using it. If you want to know more about how eye-to-eye contact can help you connect with a man and get him in the mood, check out this free video. It’ll teach you simple, effective strategies to connect with a guy at the deepest level.
5. He’s trying to be your hero
He is trying to be your hero because he wants to step up and make sure you are safe and taken care of. He does this in a variety of ways, from buying you gifts to rescuing you when your car breaks down.
In order to trigger this hero instinct in him, you need to show him how much you need him. You can do this in a variety of ways, but the best way is to be authentic and honest with him. This can be difficult, but it is worth it in the long run.
Try asking him for help with stereotypical “manly” tasks, such as fixing things around the house or grabbing dinner on his way home. Or, try showing him how much you appreciate him by telling him specific ways that he makes your life better. It’s important to be genuine when you do this, because hero instinct isn’t triggered by fake appreciation. It is triggered by feeling needed and wanted. And you can’t get more romantic than that!