Sex can make you feel a lot of things, from ecstatic joy to extreme sadness. Sometimes, these emotions can cause you to cry during orgasm. But don’t worry, this is totally normal.
Tears during sex aren’t usually a sign of anything being wrong. However, there are some situations where it’s not.
Hormonal Changes
One of the main reasons why people cry after sex is because they are experiencing hormonal changes, including the release of dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin. These hormones are known to help people feel awe, love and sexual arousal. However, if the feelings don’t meet expectations, it can lead to disappointment and tears.
In addition to the hormones, some women may also experience pain during or after sex. If you are experiencing pain, it is important to let your partner know about the issue so they can take steps to alleviate the pain.
If you are not getting enough sleep or you are stressed, it could also contribute to your post-sex tears. This is because your body needs to release the tension in order to function properly. Sex is a great way to relieve stress and it can help you feel closer to your partner.
Other times, you can simply be happy and crying out of pure joy. This is especially true if you have just had the best orgasm of your life. Just like how you might cry at a touching movie or when someone gives you a thoughtful gift, it is completely normal to cry when you are experiencing something that makes you incredibly happy.
Relationship Issues
It’s not a surprise that people cry when they’re head over heels in love or when they receive a beautiful gift. It’s even more likely that some of us will succumb to happy emotions and shed a few tears after having a mind-blowing orgasm or a very intimate moment with a partner.
These types of feelings aren’t necessarily bad, but they can be a bit overwhelming. They may be a result of an emotional roller coaster where you go from anticipation to excitement to ecstasy, then back down to reality.
In some cases, crying after sex can be a form of communication with your partner. If they’re squirting for the first time, experiencing their strongest orgasm ever, or something new that has them completely engrossed, your partner might express these emotions through crying to make sure you understand what they mean.
Lastly, it’s also possible that your tears aren’t related to any sexual activity at all. Rather, they’re an expression of your relationship and could point to some unresolved issues or even past sexual trauma. If this is the case, it’s important to talk to your partner and explore those deeper issues as soon as you can so that you can move forward with a healthy and fulfilling relationship. The sooner you address those issues, the more likely it is that they won’t resurface in the future.
Adrenal Fatigue
While it may be shocking or uncomfortable at first, crying after sex is actually more common than you might think. It’s a phenomenon known as postcoital dysphoria or post-sex tristesse and it happens for all sorts of reasons.
One of the biggest causes of tears after sex is adrenal fatigue. Sex can cause a big release of the hormones dopamine and oxytocin which are associated with feelings of love and connection. This can lead to an intense emotional roller coaster where you go from anticipation and excitement to ecstasy and orgasm. This can be a lot for anyone to handle, especially those who suffer from anxiety.
Additionally, some people might cry after sex because of past sexual trauma. This can happen because of certain positions or words that trigger memories from childhood. In this case, it’s important to address the root cause of the anxiety with therapy or other means of healing.
Sometimes, crying after sex might be your subconscious’ way of telling you that you need to process some negative emotions. The good news is, this is nothing to be ashamed of! It’s just your body and mind doing what they need to do to heal. Just remember to talk about it with your partner and make sure that you are both on the same page.
Pain
A lot of people think it’s weird to cry after sex, but in reality it’s completely normal. Especially if it’s coupled with an orgasm, it can be a sign that you’re feeling really intense physical sexual pleasure.
But tears aren’t just about that, they can also be about how you and your partner interacted, or if there’s something else going on in your relationship. It’s not uncommon to feel a surge of emotions after sex, including happiness, love and tension release, so it makes sense that you may end up crying.
Some of the reasons for post-sex sadness can be very serious. If you’re feeling depressed, sad or irritable after consensual sex that you knew was going to be satisfying, it could be an indication of postcoital dysphoria. This is a medical condition that’s not well-researched but can include feelings of tearfulness, sadness and rage after a sexual experience, even if it was positive.
Intimacy coach Pallavi Barnwal tells VICE that if you’re experiencing this, it’s important to get to the root of what’s causing it and talk to a therapist about it. The underlying cause may be some kind of sexual trauma or abuse from childhood, and this needs to be addressed. If you’re able to address it, the tears may cease to come after sex or orgasm as easily.
