We all know that sex is important in a relationship. But, what we don’t all realise is that good sex matters too.
Magnificent sex has a lot less to do with daring feats of seduction or screaming orgasms and more to do with pleasure and connection.
This article will cover some tips, techniques and positions to help you achieve good sex.
1. It’s a great way to bond
If you’re in a relationship, it can be tempting to feel like you need to please your partner during sex. However, if you want to have good sex you need to take care of your own pleasure as well. Trying to meet a certain standard of pleasure (or orgasm) can actually make it harder to have enjoyable sex.
Instead, focus on what feels good to both of you, and communicate about it openly. Communicating will help you both understand what satisfies and arouses you, and create intimacy that can lead to more satisfying sex.
It’s also important to remember that sex isn’t the only way to bond with your partner. Intimate activities such as cuddling, kissing, and hand-holding can all trigger the release of oxytocin, which can help foster feelings of love and emotional connection. Many experts agree that sex is an essential part of any healthy relationship, but it’s important to remember that it isn’t necessary for all relationships. Many people, including asexual people and those with low libidos, can have fulfilling relationships without having frequent sex.
2. It’s a great way to express your feelings
The physical experience of sex releases oxytocin, the “love hormone” that’s earned it its reputation. It’s involved in the physical part of sex, but also boosts feelings like affection, euphoria, and tenderness. Oxytocin may be what makes sex so addictive, and it’s why we crave intimacy in general.
After great sex, you should feel like you have fully expressed yourself to your partner. That might mean moving your body in ways that please you, or vocalizing yourself during the act, or sharing your deepest sexual thoughts and fantasies. It might also mean being honest about what doesn’t work for you.
Sex is complex, and a lot depends on your individual needs and desires, as well as the needs and desires of your partner. It’s important to talk about your feelings during sex, but be careful not to create frustration. It’s best to talk about these issues outside the bedroom at a time when you can both be calm.
3. It’s a great way to relax
For those of us who live with a lot of stress, having good sex can be an important way to relax. Studies show that sexual activity — or simply being with a partner or lover — can help reduce the hormone cortisol, which can lead to feelings of stress and anxiety.
Overthinking: Sometimes people have too many ideas of how sex is supposed to go, or they worry about things like if they’ll last long enough or look good for their partners. This can make it hard to enjoy sex.
Nervous Thoughts: These thoughts might not have anything to do with sex, but they can still interfere. For example, if you’re worried that your sex won’t be as good as what you see in porn, it can affect your mood and even your ability to have pleasure.
The best way to get relaxed and ready for sex is to take time to prepare, do some foreplay, and be comfortable turning it off if you’re not in the mood. Plus, doing sex regularly can trigger the release of the bonding hormone oxytocin, which can boost moods and decrease stress.
4. It’s a great way to get to know your partner
There’s no one-size-fits-all approach to good sex, and learning your partner’s likes and dislikes is a great way to build intimacy. A good place to start is by asking your partner questions during sexual intercourse, such as what positions give them pleasure or what things they like to do while in the bedroom.
You can also try experimenting with different sex techniques to see what works best for you and your partner. For example, try kissing and touching more during sex to increase your connection with each other, or experiment with different sex positions to see what arouses you both.
It can be hard to know your partner if you don’t talk about sex, especially when there are other demands on your time. That’s why it is important to make sex a regular part of your relationship, and to talk about it regularly. The more you and your partner discuss your sexual desires, the more connected you will feel. And who knows, you might just find that the sex you are having isn’t all that bad.
5. It’s a great way to get to know yourself
Having good sex can be an important way to get to know yourself. It can help you figure out what kinds of sexual experiences turn you on, and it can also give you a better sense of what your personal limits are when it comes to sexual pleasure.
It can also be a great way to get to know your partner. If you’re having sex with someone who enjoys it, it can be fun to explore different ways of enjoying sex together. For example, you might try a new position or experiment with oral sex.
However, it’s important to remember that good sex isn’t necessarily defined by the amount of foreplay or whether or not you have an orgasm. It’s about how much both people enjoy themselves and whether or not the sex is fulfilling. If you’re having trouble with your sex life, it may be helpful to talk to a certified sex therapist. They can help you communicate better and teach you techniques to increase your libido.