Sex toys can be a fun and exciting way to enhance pleasure, but they’re not for everyone. By starting small, communicating with a partner, experimenting and cleaning your toys regularly, you can unlock a world of pleasure that’s right for you.
Toys made from porous materials like rubber, jelly, and latex can harbor bacteria, so it’s best to avoid them as a beginner.
1. Lelo Sona 2
The clitoris is the only part of the body that’s specifically designed for sexual arousal and pleasure. So if you’re looking for a toy that’ll stimulate your clit and get you to orgasm, the Lelo Sona 2 is definitely worth checking out.
This toy – or toy-suction device, as it’s known – promises mind-blowing orgasms with its clitoral suction and sonic sensations. The insides of the clitoral massager are made from a soft, flexible silicone that’s meant to soothe your vulva while you play with it. And the small opening that suctions onto your clit is super smooth, so you can use it without any irritation or pain.
Sona 2 also features Cruise Control, which allows you to set the motor speed and vibration intensity and then lets it do its thing, increasing or decreasing the speed as needed. This is a pretty smart feature and it saves your battery life – and your clit – from being abused by a too-strong motor.
The only downside is that you need to use a good quality lubricant with this toy. Applying it to your vulva will help you create a seal and increase the sexy sensations you’ll feel when using it. Plus, you can even use it in the bath or shower (as long as you don’t move it around too much). The OG Sona is instinctive and more powerful, but the newer Cruise version has 4 extra modes to help you edge closer to orgasm.
2. OhMiBod Finger Vibe
OhMiBod has a whole line of app-controlled vibrators and this one is particularly beginner friendly. Camgirls on the biggest adult streaming sites did a good job popularizing this little egg-shaped vibe for its remote capabilities, but it’s actually a great toy for anyone who wants to get started with the world of teledildonics. The Dame Arc is made of smooth, body-safe silicone and designed with the G-spot and clit pleasure in mind. The app-controlled features include air pulsation on the clit end that can be combined with pretty strong vibration, and an external stroker for added depth and intensity.
If you want to take it up a notch with your partner, this vibe is compatible with Kiiroo’s FeelConnect app so it can be paired with any other Kiiroo device. This makes it a perfect toy for interactive long-distance sex with a partner, or for couples who enjoy remote mutual masturbation.
Designed to slip over the finger, this silicone vibe is an orgasmic addition to any clitoral stimulation session or massage. It also feels lovely in the hand and is an excellent option for anyone who may have issues with grip or holding strength. This small vibe is super powerful and works best with lots of water-based lube, especially for the clitoral stimulation. Bring a large sex toy bag with you, just in case your vibe runs out of juice or if you need to go pee.
3. Better Love Ruby Finger Vibe
Indulge in clitoral stimulation with this simple, sleekly designed toy. It upgrades a single finger with a soft, jelly-rubber vibe that is crafted for pin-point stimulation and is easy to use for both solo or partner play. It’s also super discreet, and the small size makes it an ideal pick for travel.
This petite ring vibrator from Maia features three interchangeable mouth sizes for different clitoral fits and offers a total of five vibration modes. A Bawdy Bookworms Insider member describes it as a “smooth and almost silent” toy that can be used for pleasure on its own or during oral play.
Another travel-friendly toy that’s shaped like a finger is this slim model from Smile Makers. It’s geared toward G-spot stimulation, and it has seven different vibration patterns for ultimate customization.
While hesitancy around purchasing a sex toy may still exist (especially for men), experts say it’s not only safe but actually healthy to indulge in sexual pleasure. They point to research showing that oxytocin release, which happens during internal stimulation, can help reduce stress and improve immunity. But before you buy, make sure you understand the major types of sex toys available and how to use them. Listed below are some of the most popular options for women and men. For example, dildos and vibrators are the go-to for most female parts, while cock rings can help dudes achieve harder, longer-lasting erections through stimulating the male G-spot.
4. Luna Magic Wand
Luna’s wand massager is another great option for anyone looking for a quiet, discreet vibrator. Available in several colors, this wand features 20 vibration patterns and eight speeds. It’s body-safe and USB rechargeable, with a long battery life. Plus, the wand is designed with intuitive memory, so you can pick up where you left off last time. The only downside to this wand is that it doesn’t have a travel lock setting, which might make it more difficult to bring through security at the airport. But that’s a small trade-off for the amazing quality and price. This wand is available exclusively on Amazon, and all color options are Prime-eligible.